This month LYYB thought we’d try something different. Ask a chap and ask a bird are combined in a public debate. We want anyone and everyone to comment on the below question... feel free to write an essay or a simple sentence. We want as many people to answer as humanly possible. Maybe there will be something in it for you, who knows what LYYB are really up to!
So the question... Take it away ladies and gents...
LYYB likes a night on the town, wearing a skimpy outfit and drinking ourselves into a stupor as much as anyone, but when it comes to nights out and meeting the opposite or maybe the same sex depending on the person, can you find love on a night out? Or do you think the way you meet someone sets the tone for a relationship? Is it true that the only way to meet a partner these days is to be off your head in a night club? A penny for your thoughts...
I thought I found 'Love' on a night out once...but I was wrong. He had a GF.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I sincerely hope the last sentence is not a cold hard fact masquerading as a question. Love and romance are truly doomed otherwise.
ReplyDeleteI still believe love can be found anywhere and at any time, even on an innocent night out. It’s just that when it comes to matters of the heart, alcohol ends up being a shroud rather than a shield, obscuring true feelings and desires in a haze of ill-advised dance moves and snogging in the taxi. Of course having a drink to boost courage in making the first move is only natural, but for the follow up sobriety and a clear head are definitely must haves.
What I never understand is why some people are so interested in how two people meet each other and under what circumstances, as if that forever determines either the level of feelings involved or the likelihood of the relationship going the distance. The days (if they ever existed) when people would meet at designated social events and pair off are long gone as being the only means of forming a partnership. Besides, love is something that should blossom through persistence, hard work and mutual understanding and desire. It does not need the first step to be perfectly conceived and executed according to set rules because the rest certainly are not going to be.
I don’t know if ‘looking for love’ is actually possible. But if you decide to give it a try, then have trust and belief in yourself and the person you really are. If you do that, no amount of disappointment will knock you down. And I say that as someone whose love life is more Depeche Mode than Donny & Marie.
I found love on a night out, I honestly think it did 'set the tone' for the relationship. Of course by that I mean it ended the way it started... messy. I wouldn't discourage such relations, but I think people have to be cautious when it comes to meeting people whilst under the influence.
ReplyDeleteI've learnt my lesson...
Never drink and fall in love.
i think you can find love on nights out. Face it, not all men who go out are total dick heads. Nice men do sometimes like to leave thier houses and venture out. even though they are few and far between, any women who knows her stuff can pick a good apple out of a bad bunch. So in answer to your question LYYB yes i think you can find love on a night out but just be carful you dont throw the word around just because your wasted. xxxxx
ReplyDeleteI don't think you can find love on a night out but you can find attraction, love is built through time and as stated on other comments nights out don't have to involve alcohol.
ReplyDeleteFor me ending the night in anticipation of wondering when to text or call the day after because of the connection lasts longer then waking up next to a stranger
You can't find 'real' love on a night out, you can find lust. Make that plenty of lust. People I know who've found so called 'love' on a night out seem to be in miserable relationships, this could be because these people don't really know each other as they were bought together by being pissed.
ReplyDeleteI found my husband on a night out. Although we had too much to drink it was still love at first sight. We kissed,danced,chatted,swapped numbers and that was that! We are now happily married with 2 wonderful children. There is hope finding love on a night out!(I know this is a bold statement to make but I am sure there are others out there who can vouch for this too! )XxxX
ReplyDeleteLove can be found anywhere. But so can lust. Don't get one confused for the other.
ReplyDeleteIf you're looking for a skimpily-clad lass who's off her face, then you're not looking for love.
ReplyDeleteEven as a girl after a few drinks there is only one thing i'm looking for, steamy hot one night stand sex. I very much doubt that this could EVER turn into a relationship. People on nights out aren't looking for love, they are looking to get drunk, eye up people and maybe get laid. I very much doubt people can even have normal relationships anymore.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on the situation. For me, its usually a case of meeting someone you already know. If you meet a complete stranger in a grimy nightclub, the chances are that neither of you are looking for love.
ReplyDeletei found love on a night out. There was a mirror on the dance floor.
ReplyDeletefinding love on a night out is as likely as finding a contact lens you dropped on the floor. Sometimes just sometimes you can find it
ReplyDeletePeople should comment if they are female or male in their answers :)
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Good point Julie... (from a computer)
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